You can't change who you are, and you can't go back to what you were before life hit you.

"By the time we're mature enough to have a relationship, it's because we're all a little wrong. We've done some livin', got out quirks ans issues, and know what they are. That's essential for a real connection. If you haven't faced up to your crap, you don't know yourself. If you don't know yourself, you don't know what works with you. It's when you've figured out how you're wrong that you can best find a mate who complements that."
Leaving Unknown by Kerry Reichs


It's not only about being ok with being alone. It's about learning about who you are and finding what you want that aids the search.